Imaginale Design
It's almost midnight, so it's not entirely presumptuous to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day :) If you don't have someone to share this day with you, then take a friend out for lunch or spoil YOURSELF for the day! If you do have someone -- don't take them for granted.

So anyway, while I was working on my 100 Day Project, I ended up snapping this picture of my fiance:

Now, honestly, I have no idea what he was laughing at. The even funnier thing is that I'm almost 95% sure he made HIMSELF laugh. Oh no friends, I am not THAT funny. I'm very similar to him in that I laugh very hard at my own jokes. Like I tell Jose "if no one else is enjoying them, I might as well!"

We went to shop for our wedding bands today and GOODNESS the men's bands are more expensive than we thought. We also (finally) registered at Bed Bath & Beyond. I felt like a 4 year old with her parents. My feet were tired, I was hungry, and I lost interest in all items at the store once the 2 hour mark hit. I was ready to go! And the worst part is that we were not prepared for this whole registry thing. We picked out our fine china and kitchen items, but that's pretty much it. We don't know WHERE we're going to be living yet so it's not like we can pick out bedroom stuff. Fortunately Jose cares about decor like I do so it makes sense to find out what our home/apartment will look like first, pick a color scheme, then decide on the stuff to fill our house with. Granted, we love to cook (and eat!) so we knew we needed the essentials for the kitchen.

Since we need to send out the invitations soon and can't really register for much, do you think it is inappropriate to write "Due to relocation, we are also accepting gift cards from Bed Bath & Beyond, Target, and ___ (wal-mart?)" Is that a big no no? Cause I mean, seriously -- I would have LOVED to give one of my wedding friends a gift card. Sometimes you can't afford a $60 toilet paper dispenser BUT two of their friends could each get them a $30 gift card and the couple can get that item on their own! Plus, I'm already having to drive to Texas with my stuff...

Honestly, I don't really expect gifts from too many guests since they're having to travel and our family is already pitching in to help us with the wedding. I think a gift card is a nice alternative for a less expensive gift.

What do you think? Do you have any recommendations for stores I should suggest?
8 Responses
  1. Lenora Says:

    You NEVER ask for specific gifts, especially with the invitation and even more especially money or something money-like. Very, very tacky. I would just maybe let your mother and a couple of other strategic people know that's what you'd prefer, and that way they can tell people who ask.

  2. fabs Says:

    I think it's TOTALLY ok. Like, I would sooooo do the same thing and "ask" for gift cards because it's so hard for people to know what you want and that way any sort of money they want to offer can go to whatever you ultimately want to buy. :)

    I would suggest IKEA, but I don't know if that's just a CA thing. Bed Bath & Beyond is awesome. ;)

  3. Meghan Says:

    Definitely NOT. You aren't supposed to even include where you are registered in the invitations, because it makes it sound like you are expecting gifts, which technically, brides aren't supposed to expect. (Mentioning it on your blog is different, no worries.)

    There is a solution, though! You can register for gift cards, and it will show up on your registry. I can't believe they didn't tell you that! You can register for gift cards of different amounts and as many as you want. Like, you could register for $25, $50, and $100 gift cards. Then people could get whatever kind they can afford. That lets them know you want them though-just having registered for it is enough. Pretty much any store that has gift cards and has the ability to register will allow you to register for gift cards. Some people will choose a gift instead, but that's all in the personal preference of the giver. And Bed, Bath, and Beyond is REALLY good about returns. As long as you received it and it's on your registry, you can return it (unused/unopened) for money (except gift cards) or exchange it for something else in the store.

    Also, I wouldn't worry too much about traveling being a problem. All you have to do is put an address down on your registry, and people can choose to have gifts sent to the address on file. Then they don't have to travel with a gift. They can order it ahead of time or after and send it on. I had all my gifts go to my parents house. After we were married and back from the honeymoon, I had it changed to our address. People can send gifts for up to a year after the wedding without it being considered "late." Same goes for your thank-you notes; you can send them within a year after you receive the gift without it breaking etiquette.

    Also, I really suggest you don't use Target. They are freaking AWFUL about returns. You MUST have the receipt, and often, people don't include a receipt. You would have to ask for it to return it, and that would be just rude and awkward.

    I do recommend Macy's as a back up for your china/crystal/silver/whatever. You "earn" cash there. I think that 5% of whatever people spend on your registry is given to you in a gift card later. If you have a Macy's credit card, you earn when you spend, also. Between the two, I think we ended up getting an $85 gift card to spend at Macy's, and we bought some Martha Stewart bedding on sale & with a coupon, used the gift card, and still had $3 left. We're about to cancel the credit card, but it was useful when we were first married for the points/cash we got to spend there.

  4. Meghan Says:

    Oh, and also, Ikea doesn't allow you to have a registry there. We tried that.

  5. Ellen Says:

    Hmm . . . I don't have a problem with it. In fact, I would probably prefer giftcards. However, perhaps you shouldn't mention anything on the wedding invitations, but just on any wedding shower invitations? Also, you could register at a place with gift cards & have that be the only item on the registry - that way people will have no choice but to give you gift cards!

  6. Ale Says:

    Darn IKEA! That is going to be a place I will often visit -- I already know.

    So I see that the general consensus is putting it on your invitation is a no-no. THANK YOU friends for the wedding etiquette! I genuinely had no idea and this is why I need y'alls advice! THANK YOU!!

    BUT -- I can put it on my website, right? I have seen it on everybody's website. Jose & I are making one and I think that is standard? But please correct me because I could be violating another rule!

    MEGHAN you rock my face with your advice! You're like my wedding-mama -- guiding me in so many ways ;)

    Yeah, I was not told about registering gift cards -- that's a great idea! Mil gracias!

  7. Jessica R. Says:

    Ale….def. do NOT include that information of the registry in the invitation. I personally do not have a problem with it but etiquette....and 3 other websites that I have searched to make sure, say NO!!
    Some people will just see it as a request for a gift instead
    of an invitation. Instead, why don’t you have something
    where you provide the URL of your wedding website (I don’t
    know if you have one already but you can get one form
    Or and in that website you can include that info.

  8. Ale Says:

    Haha, I'm so glad I asked. I was definitely not up to date on that wedding etiquette. Thank God for blogs and great friends!