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After having so much trouble with our wedding cake trial, our only back up plan is to use our caterer. I mean, what else can I do? That bakery I went to is not an option. I can't taste these Houston cakes from Atlanta...

BUT, I did taste the tres leches from my caterer (Cordua), and they have THE best tres leches cake in Houston! So what am I worried about? It's not cheap. Fortunately, our guest list has dropped by 25 guests since it's an out of town wedding and that means LESS plates to pay for! This would put us just fine with the wedding cake, except now we have to consider having a "mini" cocktail hour because of the photography!!

Call it stubbornness or tradition, but I don't want to see Jose before the ceremony. I know that so many photographers tell their clients that it doesn't take anything away from you walking down the aisle, but in my heart -- I can't come to terms with that. I'm not saying that seeing your groom before you walk down the aisle makes that less special. But for *me* personally, I want to wait. However, this completely screws me over for photography because we have to -rush- through pictures after the ceremony so our guests aren't waiting longer than 45 minutes.

Realistically, as a photographer, I know that is HARDLY any time for pictures with your family AND your groom. My photographer is really non-pressuring about me seeing Jose -- she said she'll work it out either way. She even said she'd be willing to do pictures AFTER the wedding of the two of us since the wedding is over at 3:30 p.m. -- perfect lighting outside. The problem is that I'll be dancing during the wedding and may end up looking sweaty & tired after it's over. But maybe not?

Past brides? Did you find yourself sweaty and tired after your wedding? Maybe if I got my make-up retouched a little ... I could be fine?

Soooo, if I want to buy my photographer some time after the ceremony, then Jose and I need to add some cocktails = more $!! Maybe I can just get some french bread & different jams... haha. I mean, hello, it is brunch after all! And who doesn't love bread? Actually, we are having plantain chips with different chimichurri sauces, so we might bring those out with the fruit display and only have to buy one appetizer. That's enough to munch on, right? Fruit, plantain chips, and a meat appetizer? Thoughts?

Last -- Groom's cake. We still want to have a little something for Jose despite our own troubles with the wedding cake. Originally, when money was a fairytale and we were oblivious to actual costs, we wanted a MILK fountain surrounded by chocolate chip cookies! How cool would that have been?! A photographer had told us she did that for her wedding (Julie Wilhite). Then reality kicked in, and our new options are:

Get this... a rice krispies treat cake!!

I'm not obsessed with these, but Jose really loves them. Plus, he convinced his mom to make them so it won't be a disastrous investment. If you are up for the challenge, I got the scoop on Cake Central.

I found this Norwegian cake made of stacked, almond wreths (sp?) on Kiss the Groom:

And for our back up plan (which is my favorite), have a small assortment of pies:

via Martha Stewart Weddings

Because, you know, not everyone likes tres-leches cake (WHAT?!). I understand, I am also a chocolate lover...

SO! Tell me.. what do you think about the mini cocktail? Satisfied? And what do you think about pictures after the wedding? The great thing is we would have freedom to go anywhere outside our venue and spend as much time as we need (reasonably).
4 Responses
  1. Sarah Esther Says:

    that rice krispies cake is AWESOME!!! love that idea... so i see why he likes it, too :) hahah pies are nice tho, and different! no one will be expecting any of these!

  2. Lenora Says:

    Would the milk fountain really be that expensive? Could you borrow Kira's fountain, or would it not be big enough? It seems like you could buy a ridiculous amount of bakery chocolate chip cookies for $50 at a grocery store (Kroger cookies are the yum).

    I'm a little torn on the seeing you before the ceremony. If you had a private moment to yourselves, it could still be really sweet. And, moment of honesty here, in my experience guests tend to get antsy/annoyed when kept waiting for any length of time. I do, especially if I'm hungry or ready to dance.

    If you guys did all other pictures before the ceremony (everything except the ones with each other), maybe you could keep it to a reasonable time--30 or 40 minutes or so. You also need to take into consideration that you're thinking about making changes to your hair before the reception that'll take a few minutes.

    So basically, I hate being kept waiting at a reception, and I think that's a pretty popular opinion, especially among male guests and children. I also think it's quite likely that it could take longer than you might think. That said, married ladies would probably be more sympathetic, and it's your wedding so you should do what you want.

  3. Ale Says:

    Sarah -- I thought it was a really cool idea too, haha. It all depends on what we're actually ABLE to do in the end :)

    Jenna- The biggest problem with the milk fountain is having something that will keep the milk COLD. I loooove milk and cookies, but someone would have to be assigned the role of keeping the milk in the fridge, and filling up the fountain when it's time. There IS a fridge in the venue, so it could be possible. We could always test Kira's fountain with some milk...

    About the guests waiting -- you are very right about the majority not enjoying waiting. This is why we are 90% sure we're going to have mini appetizers. My main question is, do you think those appetizers would be enough? And how much time would that ACTUALLY buy me?

    I may have to reconsider the whole look thing =\ =\

  4. Meghan Says:

    I was in a wedding where they went ahead and let people get their food at the reception (the whole buffet was open) and have a seat to eat while the bride and groom and wedding party did their "together" pictures. No one seemed to mind. And, that way, most people were finished eating more quickly so that when the couple came in, announced the wedding party, and had their first dance, the father/daughter dance, and the mother/son dance, the guests were ready to jump in and dance afterwards because they had already had time to eat a bit.

    I think having appetizers will be fine. Don't compromise on seeing him before the wedding if that's not what you want. For me, I wanted pictures ahead of time, but I totally get why some girls don't do that. I've been in a TON of weddings, and I've seen it both ways in many of them. I really think that if you do what you want, you will be happy. And your guests won't mind that much. As soon as the buffet opens up, they'll eat and forget they were hungry, unless you make them wait two hours. One hour or less isn't that bad.